The best bands have people who lead sometimes without being told to do so. You stick together but you are also apart. Keeping everyone together can require leadership, but most of that leadership comes in the form of action. Examples speak way louder than words. Hopefully the little dictaorships insdide the democracy don't rub up against each other and whatever inertia you got going will keep them from exploding if they do. And then there is love and friendship which is kind of what I was referencing with Carl and Vincent. And while that's an important ingredient that can keep two people close. It can't always keep the band together. And it's okay to be okay with that, like they are.